At some point, you need to be honest with yourself. Like really get to the root of what drives you to think and act as you do. No game here. Just you and your truth.
Are your judgments making you angry? Is your compassion filling you with love? Is fear closing you off from others? Is empathy opening yourself up to all of humanity?
Hate can be a language. Love can be a language.
What are you thinking, feeling, speaking? Why? Be honest.....with yourself.