When we find ourselves in relationships that are contingent on what we put in and what we get out, connection has become transaction. Of course, there is responsibility and accountability in relationship. However, if the base of it is, “Look what I’ve done for you.” or “I owe you, because of what I’ve done or haven’t done.” ego and fear are driving feelings and behaviors rather than self and love.
Love Messages
You may be the one.
We are not truthful about our wants and needs. We force for the sake of maintaining. We label acts of obligated duty as forms of love. We give up and call it compromise. We hide in our own shadow and claim we are private. We seek confirmation that feels safe. We avoid honest reflection and conversations that feel threatening. We give power to our faults. We see our self-worth as secondary to pleasing others.
Love Messages
Sometimes circumstances give fear more power to influence. What feels real and true needs acceptance. Love is not manufactured. Love happens.
