Pain is part of it. It’s not all of it. It’s not the main part of it. It’s how we bring awareness and action to it that influences [if] how we can move through it, learn from it, and heal.
Love Fear
The research is out. Fear stops us in our tracks. I suggest, rather than avoiding your fear or fighting your fear, you try loving it. Welcome your fear into your life. To love is to act.
Face and Move
Sure, we must face our fears. But what may be even more necessary for living an authentic, blissful life, is facing what we do not feel we deserve. If you don't feel you are enough, if you do not believe you are worthy of your dream life, you stagnate.
S2E8 : How About Resisting?
How we think about our lives influences how we feel about our lives. How we talk about our lives to others and to ourselves affects our mood, our outlook, and our sense of self-worth. The beautiful thing is, we can control how we think and talk about our lives!
Healing
Feel. Deal. Heal.
S2E7 : How About Curiosity?
Have you wondered if your conditioning of the past is overriding your curiosity in the present? I sure have. Let's explore together.
It's Time
What we try to hide or run from, remains.
S2E6 : How About Avoidance?
If you are avoiding anything, you are limiting the authentic expression of your truth.
Forcing Is Painful
Be gentle with yourself. Be patient. Gift yourself time, space, and attention to sit, to feel, to learn, to heal, to grow.
S2E5 : How About Love and Relationships?
It's Valentine's Day, so why not chat about love, relationships, and all the should be's, what if's, and why not's?
S2E4 : How About You?
We often react to what others are doing instead of PAUSING to respond in a more thoughtful, loving way. This matters. Because our lives affect each other.
It's Not Yours
It’s time to unpack.
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Sit with it.
Sit quietly.
Patiently.
Lovingly.
Breathe.
Heal.
Talk About Love
Afraid? Talk about love. Got a problem? Talk about love. Going through a tough patch? Talk about love. Unsure of your next step? Talk about love. Having a disagreement? Talk about love. Trying to heal? Talk about love. Want change? Talk about love.
We Can
We can control our intentions and our responses. We can choose to be present in the moment and move with grace and love. We can unlearn. We can acknowledge the lesson and release it. We can face our pain and make healthy decisions to heal it. We can be exactly who we are meant to be.
Loss As A Doorway
Seeing loss as a doorway shifts the perspective. A doorway is an entry point, not the destination. A doorway invites movement. A doorway is a boundary. Seeing loss as a doorway can also bring awareness to attachment. This commitment to self awakens emotions, inspires deep introspection, and creates space for acceptance. Movement.
Be Curious
When we are hurting, it can be difficult to lean in and face the pain. Oftentimes, we just want to avoid it and hope it goes away. And then our minds run wild with judgments and stories about the past and the future. In the present moment is where we can unlearn our patterns and learn lessons. If we choose to be curious about what is hurting within ourselves and question the pain, the experience can shift from heartache to healing. Sure, it may feel excruciating. It can also be illuminating. You begin to understand rather than replay. This experience is unique for each individual as well as possible for each individual.
Healthy Distractions
Engaging in activities that are positive and productive can benefit our wellness, sense of self-worth, and attitude. However, to force engagement, even in something healthy, and not also work on your pain, trauma, and darkness is fear-based. It tends to be more about hiding instead of healing.
Where Did I Go?
A re-introduction to me…
Patience With Pain
This may seem counterintuitive. When we hurt, we just want it to end. This is not a suggestion for simplicity or easiness. Pain is a natural experience of life just as love is. Sit with it, but no need to be stuck in it. Lean into it, learn from it, and then leave it. Allow yourself to feel it. Allow yourself to mourn. Allow yourself to heal. Pain becomes what you make it. It can become an excruciating lesson or it can become debilitating suffering. The choice is always yours.
Don’t ask yourself, “How long will this pain last?” but instead, gently ask yourself, “What do I need in this moment to heal?”
