Our beliefs come from our experiences. Therefore, the grand discussion is really not about which belief is more noble, but instead, how influential was the experience? Furthermore, having a different past experience could have established a different current belief. Even more than that, opening yourself up to new experiences can affect and even create new beliefs. And in all of this, no matter the experience or the belief, we can ground ourselves in accepting and honoring that we are One.
You Are Pure
We all get distracted from recognizing the purity, the beauty, and the splendidness of our true self in the moment. And yet, it remains. What causes us to be so distracted and more so, label oneself something one is not? Simply stated, our minds. Our experiences from the past. Our expectations about the future. Our looping of what ifs. The bombardment of cultural and societal shoulds. All of this feeds our minds to construct myths which distract us from what is. Strip away the outside landscape, silence the outside noise, let go of the past and the future. What is left? A beautiful, pure soul lovingly basking in the present moment.
Spread Love
Let’s do this!
We are love. We have the capacity to love. We can make the choice to love. We are one in love. Think love. Speak love. Be love.
Believe
It’s within you. Yes it is. You have the freedom to make the choice to be positive. Of course we experience challenges, loss, and pain. But those experiences need negativity to survive. Instead, you can dig deep and summon the strength to feed positivity to those experiences. Your positive energy has the power to transform challenges into an opportunities, loss into acceptance, and pain into healing. Believe.
Only Love
Not fear. Not judgment. Not anger. Not conspiracy. Not hate. Not indifference. Not resentment. Not pessimism. Not revenge. Not doubt. Not prejudice. Not racism. Not conditions. Not comfort. Not separation.
Enough is enough. We’ve tried all those other things. They don’t work. The only thing that connects us is LOVE. Love without thinking.
What Are You Feeding?
Love Is Simple
We have found different ways and words to justify the judgment of others. Social media and cancel culture. Anonymous attacks to expose. All done for the greater good. Shaming, in any context, does not teach or heal. We have become so removed from love energy that it is no longer our primary expression with each other. We reserve it as we create conditions. We deny it to determine if it’s deserved. We preach oneness and practice separation. We ask for positivity and share negativity. Love is simple, but we’ve made loving difficult.
What Have You Done?
Hard Truth
How you speak to yourself and treat yourself makes all the difference in the world. We want to thrive and grow. We have hurt that needs healing. We have dreams we yearn to pursue. In all of it, being honest and meeting ourselves where we are at deserves our tenderness, our compassion, our patience. Though the truth may be hard, how we move into and through it can be graceful.
Face Yourself
We are not our fears. We do give them a place to live within us. We do nurture them with limiting beliefs. We do attach to the expectations we want from our experiences and relationships. We can become aware. We can set intentions. We can accept and release. We can heal. We can love. We can live our truth.
Loss As A Doorway
Seeing loss as a doorway shifts the perspective. A doorway is an entry point, not the destination. A doorway invites movement. A doorway is a boundary. Seeing loss as a doorway can also bring awareness to attachment. This commitment to self awakens emotions, inspires deep introspection, and creates space for acceptance. Movement.
Are You Being Honest?
As you journey into self-love, healing, love, discovery, relationships, career....your life, you need to be honest with yourself and those in your life.
Be Curious
When we are hurting, it can be difficult to lean in and face the pain. Oftentimes, we just want to avoid it and hope it goes away. And then our minds run wild with judgments and stories about the past and the future. In the present moment is where we can unlearn our patterns and learn lessons. If we choose to be curious about what is hurting within ourselves and question the pain, the experience can shift from heartache to healing. Sure, it may feel excruciating. It can also be illuminating. You begin to understand rather than replay. This experience is unique for each individual as well as possible for each individual.
Radical Love
Love energy is the most divine and transformative energy. It is within all of us. It connects all of us. Love is how we accept, release, heal, teach, learn, and evolve. Radical love is about no longer settling. No longer compromising. No longer hiding behind contentment while your inner fire burns. Radical love is next level living.
Love Messages
When we find ourselves in relationships that are contingent on what we put in and what we get out, connection has become transaction. Of course, there is responsibility and accountability in relationship. However, if the base of it is, “Look what I’ve done for you.” or “I owe you, because of what I’ve done or haven’t done.” ego and fear are driving feelings and behaviors rather than self and love.
Healthy Distractions
Engaging in activities that are positive and productive can benefit our wellness, sense of self-worth, and attitude. However, to force engagement, even in something healthy, and not also work on your pain, trauma, and darkness is fear-based. It tends to be more about hiding instead of healing.
Where Did I Go?
A re-introduction to me…
Self-Love
Giving of yourself to prove yourself. Compromising yourself to keep the peace. Settling because of fear, guilt, shame. Hiding your truth to not be rejected. Telling others you’re fine when you’re not. Creating a narrative about life being about surviving not thriving, scarcity not abundance, sacrifice not self-love.
Patience With Pain
This may seem counterintuitive. When we hurt, we just want it to end. This is not a suggestion for simplicity or easiness. Pain is a natural experience of life just as love is. Sit with it, but no need to be stuck in it. Lean into it, learn from it, and then leave it. Allow yourself to feel it. Allow yourself to mourn. Allow yourself to heal. Pain becomes what you make it. It can become an excruciating lesson or it can become debilitating suffering. The choice is always yours.
Don’t ask yourself, “How long will this pain last?” but instead, gently ask yourself, “What do I need in this moment to heal?”
Love Messages
You may be the one.
We are not truthful about our wants and needs. We force for the sake of maintaining. We label acts of obligated duty as forms of love. We give up and call it compromise. We hide in our own shadow and claim we are private. We seek confirmation that feels safe. We avoid honest reflection and conversations that feel threatening. We give power to our faults. We see our self-worth as secondary to pleasing others.
