We often discount or flat out dismiss our own wisdom, creativity, and ability to guide ourselves out of and through.
Be Mighty
This is not about pretending or denying what you feel, but rather not attaching to it.
New YOU Energy
New month. New reflections.
Love Your Shadow
There comes a time when you just surrender to loving all of yourself, completely.
Simply Stop Comparing
Gently place your focus inward. Be soft with you are and who you are becoming.
You Are Enough
Go with your natural flow. Fill yourself up with love. Flood yourself with compassion.
Self-Love
Giving of yourself to prove yourself. Compromising yourself to keep the peace. Settling because of fear, guilt, shame. Hiding your truth to not be rejected. Telling others you’re fine when you’re not. Creating a narrative about life being about surviving not thriving, scarcity not abundance, sacrifice not self-love.
The Lounge Podcast - Ep.3 How Are You?
Episode 3 is here!!!
The Lounge Podcast - Ep.2 Where Are You?
Episode 2 is HERE!!!!
This time around I chat about how a pandemic might be a good time for self-reflection.
Daily Moment of Awareness [10.27.2019]
Moments of awareness shared with you
Life is the experience. Of course, our choices influence the experience. How we perceive it affects the experience. How we feel about our life experience is on each of us to explore.
People so often misunderstand and ultimately, become jaded, about how much YOU determine what your life experience will be. The work, meditation, praying, positive thinking, law of attraction. vibration, visualizing, etc. are all means to discover and move through the life experience.
The great majority of us will go through the the end of a relationship. And all of us will witness the loss of a loved one. It’s not about avoiding such happenings or pretending they do not evoke strong emotions within us. It’s all about the choices we make to accept, to learn from, and to move through them. Those are the times when we can, very much so, affect, influence, shift, our life experience.
Feeling pain? What are you doing to heal? Feeling stuck? What are you doing to grow?
Daily Moment of Awareness [10.24.2019]
Moments of awareness shared with you
You don’t heal by denying how you feel. You don’t heal by pretending you don’t feel what you feel. You don’t heal by forcing yourself to feel one way or another.
You heal by facing your hurt. By sitting with your pain. By grieving. By doing the work to honor what has happened and how you feel. By taking healthy steps in times of anguish and frustration. By accepting the ups, downs, and swirls of hurt. By reaching out and going within. By crying. Screaming. Sleeping. Breathing. Reflecting, Meditating or praying. Going to counseling, therapy, coaching. By doing whatever is necessary for you to engage, feel, and walk through the hurt. No timeline. Be patient.
You can feel and heal.
Daily Moment of Awareness [10.20.2019]
Moments of awareness shared with you
While we enjoy the majesty of this life, we will also experience pain. We all will. There is no avoiding it. In fact, a life spent trying to avoid pain leads to suffering.
Pain happens, whether unexpected (loss of a loved one, natural disaster, etc.) or as a result of our own doing (ruminating in resentment, allowing fear to influence our choices, etc.). The lesson is no matter the source of pain, it’s how (or if) we decide to face it that will shape us. Choosing not to embrace pain will lead to suffering. Facing pain in unhealthy ways (through numbing = drugs, sleep, pretending, etc.) will also lead to suffering. And it is suffering that gives pain power to manipulate you into believing you cannot heal.
Pain is another experience we must move through. Don’t get wrapped up in the pace of it. Do notice if you are stagnating.
Give action to pain. Ask for help (friend, family, counseling, etc.) Meditate. Pray. Journal. Engage in healthy activities (exercise, reading, walking, etc.). Other forms of action include: expressing your truth, acceptance, forgiveness, love.
Move through your pain so you can heal in love.
Daily Moment of Awareness [10.17.2019]
Moments of awareness shared with you
There is no blueprint for me.
There is no blueprint for you.
There is only acceptance of our truths.
Daily Moment of Awareness [10.15.2019]
Moments of awareness shared with you
“Why didn’t that person respond as I had hoped?” or “Why didn’t that situation unfold as I had hoped?
Have you ever asked those questions? I do. In fact, I did this morning.
These questions place our attention on the outside of ourselves. Even when our intentions are pure and our preparation is solid, people and situations are ultimately out of our “control.” Sure we can affect both by what we bring to each, but that’s where it stops. We cannot control responses.
However, we can choose how we respond to a person’s response and or the unfolding of a situation. Ask yourself how you feel and why? Ask yourself what you could learn. And then, you can choose to ground yourself in the reality of the present moment.
Daily Moment of Awareness [10.14.2019]
Moments of awareness shared with you
Maybe it’s not work. Maybe it’s not grueling. Maybe it’s not exhausting.
Maybe….it’s necessary.
When you consider making change in your life, do you cast a negative shadow on the experience? Like, before you even take a step? Think about how you characterize what you need to do or what you are trying to achieve. The more you paint it in a negative light, the more mental blocks you create to get in the way. As if you needed any more excuses.
When you reflect on areas of your life that you believe to be unhealthy or in need of a healthy dose of change, it is helpful to think and speak about the change in a grounding and benefiting way. Ask for the effort and energy needed to move forward. Allow lessons along the way. Be patient with yourself. Say, “Thank you.” for the opportunity.
You affect the process of change by your attitude about change. See it as necessary and welcome it as part of your growth.
Daily Moment of Awareness [10.12.2019]
Moments of awareness shared with you
I’ve spent a great deal of my life trying to play the “expected or acceptable role.” Though I can blame how I thought others wanted to see me, I ultimately chose how to express myself. This resulted in me being unsure of the life I wanted or how to deal with the life I had.
This conflicted feeling had been present in the mundane every day living as well as in the deeper experiences.
What I’m discovering is as I let go of my own made up stories of “what they want from me” and instead ground myself in “this is who I am,” I feel peace. I feel gratitude. Like, where have I been my entire life?!?!
I also recognize living my truth needs conscious decision making from me. Yes, my life deserves my time, space, and attention.
Daily Moment of Awareness [10.10.2019]
Moments of awareness shared with you
Today was a day filled with gifts.
It began with breathing in a beautiful morning and deepening my awareness in meditation. Then a 9+ mile run through a blissful autumn scene. Followed by a calming, restorative float session. And culminating with reiki and a full body massage.
My mind was clear. My heart was open. My soul was shining. My body was rejuvenated. My whole being was filled with gratitude.
It is good for your spirit to love and care for yourself.
Daily Moment of Awareness [10.9.2019]
Moments of awareness shared with you
It is something special when you are seen and heard. I felt that way this morning. A friend of mine shared some very kind words with me about how I affect a particular aspect of his life. See, we both play music together and he expressed how my drumming is opening him up to new ways of how he plays bass.
Why this is so special is because I’ve been playing drums for almost 25 years and I’ve been in a couple different bands. Each has been a unique experience and each has helped me grow as a musician. However, during my short stint with this current band, I’ve let go of my fear of feeling inadequate. It’s freed me to explore and to have fun.
I’ve mindfully been expressing my creative side and it has shown in my playing, my feeling, and in gratitude from others. It is really special to be seen and herd for who you really are.
Daily Moment of Awareness [10.8.2019]
Moments of awareness shared with you
I am discovering what it means to feel all the feelings. Today, was non-stop with emotions. They took me all over the place. I found myself thinking not, “Why am I feeling this?” but instead, “What can I learn from this?”
This is big time progress for me. Rather than racing, full steam into the emotion, I felt it, named it, and asked what the lesson may be? I became more accepting of my choices in life - good, bad, happy, sad, doesn't matter. They are mine and mine to learn from.
I felt like I truly honored my whole being today.
Daily Moment of Awareness [10.7.2019]
Moments of awareness shared with you
We wish people happiness all the time. But happiness, success, and yes, love, cannot exist without truth.
For people to genuinely experience happiness or success or love, they need to be living a truthful life. I don’t mean in the sense of being a Saint and never telling a white lie, but rather, living your truth. Being authentically who you were born to be.
Let that sink in.
If you are hiding your essence, whatever you experience will feel incomplete. Why? Because you will be denying yourself the ultimate experience in this life…being YOU.