On Self-Love

Self-love can mean different things to different people. To some, it is setting boundaries to stay away from negative people, setting time aside for yourself, or simply taking time to put yourself first and do what is best for your mental and physical health. No matter what, self-love is key to our overall happiness and wellbeing.

The most important thing to remember about self-love is that you have to focus on the positive aspects. It’s easy to get wrapped up in negative self-talk and focus on what you believe are your flaws. But instead of focusing on what you don’t like about yourself, it’s important to foster a positive attitude and instead look at your best qualities and focus on how you can improve them.

One of the best ways to practice self-love is to take some time to practice self-care.

You In The New Year

As we approach the new year, perhaps we can pause and hold space for ourselves. To reflect on how we think, speak, and act towards ourselves and each other.

Self-worth

Why doubt? Why play down? Why minimize? Why undervalue?

Your life deserves and needs your belief in yourself. Your truth deserves and needs your acceptance.

Stuck?

What you choose to hide from or lament or avoid can hinder your healing, your growth, your ability to make decisions. Be sure you also look at the benefits, the possibilities, the magic.

Space For Wholeness

That junk drawer is overflowing. That closet is jam-packed. That backpack can just about be zipped.

For all that you desire, you need to make room for it.

Relief

What are you clinging to? What are you holding on to? What are you attached to? What are grasping at?

Authenticity

We often take cues from others when they are actually judgments from others. We often listen to comfort instead lean into uncertainty. We forget ourselves when we only remember the past.

Courage and Grace

We feel the need to pep-talk ourselves into living our truth. And yet, our truth is like our breath. It’s right there. To connect with. To witness. To love. Be courageous in self-love and self-acceptance. Be graceful as you learn and expand.

Preferences

We often force our beliefs and desires into the present moment. As a result, we miss the beauty of the moment, the potential in the moment, the newness of the moment.

Pain Is Not The Main Part

Pain is part of it. It’s not all of it. It’s not the main part of it. It’s how we bring awareness and action to it that influences [if] how we can move through it, learn from it, and heal.

Your Life Is Not A Math Problem

We go all in with trying to make sense of it all. To find the logic. And yet, when we are asked to talk about how we feel…we struggle to express ourselves. Though our emotions may not be facts to apply to the world, they can help us understand who we are and why we act as we do or don’t.

Flow

Something we forget to do or never even think to do is forgive ourselves. That self experience can be so powerful, so healing. It provides space within ourselves to forgive others, be grateful for who and what are in our lives, and love deeper.

Your Past Is No Copilot

It happened. You still remember it. You still feel it. You still wonder what could have been different about it. You’re also not obligated to give it attention. You’re not required to carry it into new experiences. You do not need to include it in your plans.

Allow It To Flow

We attach. We hold. We collect. We get weighed down. To flow does not imply easy or hard. To flow is necessary or we risk not learning or healing or growing or discovering or loving.

Is It Really Self Doubt?

Often times, we think we have doubts about our decision making or needs/wants or dreams or abilities or direction we are feeling pulled to explore. Could be. May also be what we think we need to hear or experience from others along the journey.

The Dance

Trying to equal everything out can be exhausting. The truth is, there will be times when you get knocked over, or feel off, or you even find yourself in a sweet groove. How you choose to respond, nit matter the circumstances is the dance.

New Month. New Mindset.

Every moment is an opportunity. You can make choices for your healing, your growth, your success, your fun, your well-being. You do not need to judge what others are doing or think about what others will say. Your authenticity’s reference point is YOU.

Feel It

Rather than searching for an explanation for the experience, why not sit down, breathe, and just feel it?

Missed Opportunity

Spending energy judging someone else takes the focus off what you can be doing for yourself in the moment.